Helping Successful Men
Build What They Actually Want
By Focusing On What Really Matters:
SELF. FAMILY. PLAY. MEANINGFUL WORK.
REDEFINE | REALIGN | RECREATE
You Built What You Were Supposed To. So Why Doesn't It Feel Right?
You've spent years achieving what others admire — climbing the ladder, checking the boxes, doing everything "right."But lately, you've started to quietly resent the life you built. Not because it's bad. Because you built it for reasons that no longer feel like yours.
You wake up tired, and it's not about sleep.
Your calendar owns your days.
Your family gets a depleted version of you.
And despite everything you've built, you're left wondering: Is this it?The reDAC FrameworkThe Second Summit is an 8-week group coaching cohort built around the reDAC framework — three key steps to help you figure out what you actually want now, and rebuild around it.
Redefine Success – Get clear on what success means to you right now
Realign Priorities – Design your days to reflect your values, not just your responsibilities
Recreate Yourself – Step into the identity that fits the man you're becoming
You don’t need to burn it all down.
You just need to rebuild it around what matters now.
Hi, I'm Jake. A few years ahead of you on the same road.
I'm a licensed structural engineer who spent over a decade designing $100M buildings, managing deadlines, and climbing the career ladder. Somewhere along the way, I became a husband and a father of four.On paper, everything looked right.Internally, I was exhausted. My health had slipped. My marriage was strained. The career I'd been so proud of no longer felt like mine. I had built exactly the life I was supposed to build — and I was starting to resent it.So I stopped performing success and started redefining it. I got clear on what I actually wanted, not what I was supposed to want. I rebuilt my days around my real priorities. I self-published a children's book. I started writing a non-fiction book about the whole transition called Death by Mediocrity.And I started coaching — because the men I knew, the ones who looked the most successful from the outside, were quietly going through the same thing.Today, through Actively Human, I coach successful men who've built exactly what they were supposed to build, and are ready to build what they actually want. If that's where you are, I've been there. Let's talk.
What Others Are Saying
Luis G.
"Working with Jake has truly been a transformative experience. Before working with him, I felt stuck. If you’re looking for a coach who can help you break through barriers, achieve a balanced life, and take meaningful action, I wholeheartedly recommend Jake. His guidance has been a catalyst for positive change, and I am confident he can help you reach your own aspirations."
Cole L.
"What I’ve really appreciated is realizing that life outside of work has to be more important. Our 1:1 time gave me the space to reflect deeply on my relationships with my wife and kids—something I wasn’t making time for before. Working together helped me pause, reset, and focus on what truly matters. It was a powerful and positive experience. Thank you!"
How We Can Help You
Schedule a Call - Tell me where you are. I'll tell you how I can help. You decide whether The Second Summit is the right next step. No pitch, no pressure.
Join The Second Summit - Eight weeks. Twelve men. The reDAC framework — three key steps to figure out what you actually want now, and rebuild around it.
Build What's Actually Yours - Walk out with clarity about what matters now, days that reflect it, and the identity to live it — on your terms this time.
You're not starting over. You're redirecting. You've already proven you can build what you commit to. Now let's help you commit to what's actually yours.
Get The SECOND SUMMIT Playbook
Your 6-Day Roadmap to Stop Resenting What You've Built
and Start Building What You Want Instead.
The SECOND SUMMIT Playbook
Your 6-Day Roadmap to Stop Resenting What You've Built
and Start Building What You Want Instead.
Join The Second Summit!
Our flagship program is our 8-week cohort.
During that time you'll use the reDAC Framework to:
Redefine Success – Get clarity on what success means to you right now
Realign Priorities– Design your days to reflect your values, not just your responsibilities
Recreate Yourself – Step into the identity that fits the man you're becoming
The cohort is set up as an 8-week group coaching experience.
It includes weekly 60-minute workshops and weekly 60-minute office hours (Q&A)
Frequently Asked Questions
What's the benefit of a group coaching experience?If you’ve never been part of a group coaching program, you’re in for a treat!
It’s based on the idea of “the whole is greater than the sum of its parts” – meaning a well-curated
and facilitated small group can get far greater results than any one-on-one coaching setting.Studies show that results happen up to 5X faster in small groups than in individual training.You’ll get insights, ideas, and help not only from Jake but also from the other members of your group.Your network is your net worth so don’t overlook this!How do I know if this program is right for me?This program is for you if:
You're a man 10+ years into a demanding professional career — and you've started to quietly resent what you've built.
Everything looks right from the outside. Internally, it no longer feels like yours.
Your identity has fused with your job title, and your family is getting a depleted version of you.
You've read the self-help books and highlighted half of them — and two weeks later, nothing's changed.
You want to stop performing success and start building what's actually yours.
If you're nodding, this is probably for you. The work we do together isn't about adding more to your plate or optimizing what's already there. It's about getting honest about what you actually want this next chapter to look like — and then taking the first real steps toward building it.What’s the cost, when does it start, and how many people are in each group?A $500 deposit reserves your spot in the next group, and you pay the remaining balance at the start of your cohort. Payment plans are available if needed. We currently offer one cohort each quarter with a maximum of 12 people in the group. This keeps the setting intimate while still having the benefit of the group environment.I’m super busy – will this fit into my schedule?Our program was literally designed for people like you. One thing we focus on is doing less, better. Focusing on what’s most important and slowing down. Sounds nice, huh?What if I have other questions?No problem, just email our team at [email protected] with any questions you might have.
Or schedule a free call directly with Jake using the button below.
Join The Second Summit!
Our flagship program is our 8-week cohort.
During that time you'll use the reDAC Framework to:
Redefine Success – Get clarity on what success means to you right now
Realign Priorities– Design your days to reflect your values, not just your responsibilities
Recreate Yourself – Step into the identity that fits the man you're becoming
The cohort is set up as an 8-week group coaching experience.
It includes weekly 60-minute workshops and weekly 60-minute office hours (Q&A)
*As a Time to Shine Today listener, use code TTST200 for $200 off your deposit
Frequently Asked Questions
What's the benefit of a group coaching experience?If you’ve never been part of a group coaching program, you’re in for a treat!
It’s based on the idea of “the whole is greater than the sum of its parts” – meaning a well-curated
and facilitated small group can get far greater results than any one-on-one coaching setting.Studies show that results happen up to 5X faster in small groups than in individual training.You’ll get insights, ideas, and help not only from Jake but also from the other members of your group.Your network is your net worth so don’t overlook this!How do I know if this program is right for me?This program is for you if:
You're a man 10+ years into a demanding professional career — and you've started to quietly resent what you've built.
Everything looks right from the outside. Internally, it no longer feels like yours.
Your identity has fused with your job title, and your family is getting a depleted version of you.
You've read the self-help books and highlighted half of them — and two weeks later, nothing's changed.
You want to stop performing success and start building what's actually yours.
If you're nodding, this is probably for you. The work we do together isn't about adding more to your plate or optimizing what's already there. It's about getting honest about what you actually want this next chapter to look like — and then taking the first real steps toward building it.What’s the cost, when does it start, and how many people are in each group?A $500 deposit reserves your spot in the next group, and you pay the remaining balance at the start of your cohort. Payment plans are available if needed. We currently offer one cohort each quarter with a maximum of 12 people in the group. This keeps the setting intimate while still having the benefit of the group environment.I’m super busy – will this fit into my schedule?Our program was literally designed for people like you. One thing we focus on is doing less, better. Focusing on what’s most important and slowing down. Sounds nice, huh?What if I have other questions?No problem, just email our team at [email protected] with any questions you might have.
Or schedule a free call directly with Jake using the button below.
